After looking around again at
http://wiki.kde.org/tiki-index.php?page=…ebcam%20Support I found this, I guess i missed it the first time around
"I can receive or send but not both at the same time; port 6891 has been opened for TCP/UDP packets
I'm not sure, but it seems that I had to forward 6892 (udp and tcp)
as well to get both directions working. Hope that helps!
-yes that does, i had the same problem and same solution
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I tried it out and it works great with Kopete 0.12.7